We were dating but not sleeping together
That’s unrealistic, unhealthy, and one of the main reasons solitary confinement is such a severe punishment.
Virtue strives for pure, healthy physical contact with others.
We may not need it to survive, per se, but we definitely need it to thrive.
So for romantic situations, where we often get the question ‘how far is too far?
Right would have been tucking myself into my own bed at a reasonable hour, ignoring the temptation to go over to start a movie at the time I was usually brushing my teeth. There’s another issue to consider here – even if nothing impure was happening, even if we really were just asleep, there’s a huge potential here to cause scandal. but what is the person stepping out of their dorm room at 6am for a sunrise run (rumor has it there are people who do this) supposed to think when they see me stumbling bleary-eyed down the hallway in the same clothes I was wearing yesterday? and even giving the appearance of sinful behavior can seriously mess with others’ holiness.
The Catechism clearly states: “Anyone who uses the power at his disposal in such a way that it leads others to do wrong becomes guilty of scandal and responsible for the evil that he has directly or indirectly encouraged” (2287). If people make assumptions that I’m sleeping with my boyfriend (or hooking up with a guy who is a friend), then they might also assume it’s okay to sleep with their boyfriend or girlfriend. So why is it so tempting to sleep – simply sleep – next to someone you like?
There are many, many credible psychological studies that talk about the human necessity of physical touch.
Newborns can die without it – they actually stop growing.