the statistics on how common genital herpes is, the math didn’t add up: If one in six people had it, how was I the only person I knew to do the ultimate walk of shame from the student health center clutching a stack of STD pamphlets?Further Google searches opened my eyes to the powerful and invisible stigma associated with sexually transmitted diseases. Andy was working on a political campaign in Maine while I finished a social media internship in New York City.And after texting for two months about how much we wanted to see each other—and have sex with each other—he and I were finally standing side by side.
If you have had symptoms for more than 5 days before you go to a sexual health clinic, you can still get tested to find out the cause.
How could I have caught something when I had always been so careful?
It felt like an ironic sitcom plot twist that would wind up being a huge misunderstanding: the episode where Ella convinced herself she had genital herpes. But sure enough, the doctor at my university’s health center took one look at me before announcing, “This looks herpetic.” I remember very little of what she said after that; I was too distracted by the way the walls seemed to be closing in on me to catch more than the words “incurable” and “not prevented by condoms.” To say I was shocked would be an understatement—a tidal wave of shame unlike anything I had ever experienced hit me over and over again.
The risk of your baby getting neonatal herpes is low if you have had genital herpes before.
It's higher if you get genital herpes for the first time in pregnancy.