Megan prefers younger men whom she can think of as her "boy toys—my playthings." She asks how old I am.I tell her 33, and she points at me and says, "That’s my perfect age." Later she clasps her hand over mine for a few seconds when I make a joke.In myths, novels, and films, from Helen of Troy to Hester Prynne in to Diane Lane in 2002’s_ Unfaithful, _the affair of the rare philandering female is the centerpiece of the story, and its punishments are draconian (the Trojan War, ostracism and branding with an A, being cast in —and gotten away with it. In the real world, with greater professional equality between the genders and third-wave-feminist sexual liberation, are women cheating for the same reason that men have throughout history, as Megan’s profile suggests—that is, to sate their sex drives and gratify their egos? "Megan has picked Coppelia, a Latin American diner at the border of Chelsea and the West Village in Manhattan, and she’s waiting in a booth when I arrive.In the spirit of this gender reversal, I invite you to picture me as Carrie Bradshaw, sprawled out on her bed with her Power Book G3, as she voice-overs, "I couldn’t help but wonder: Are unfaithful women the new adulterous men? She recognizes me from my profile photo, and I slide in across from her.News flash: More and more women are jumping outside their marriages in search of no-strings-attached sex. An Internet connection and an account on a site like Ashley We sent writer and monogamist Teddy Wayne to meet the growing flock of lady Don Drapers *And not by their husbands My eyes are blurry from too many post-midnight hours in front of my laptop, trolling through scores of Internet-dating profiles of women."I’m a dirty old man trapped in a woman’s body," she says. I’m very shallow."She tells me that she’s been corporeally disloyal in relationships since she started having sex at 16 and has don’t-ask, don’t-tell permission to frolic with other lovers from her "nerd" husband of nearly two decades, with whom she has several children."He can barely handle me, and he’s super-vanilla," Megan says. We have a really happy and functional house."She hoped marriage would change her cheating ways, but two years later found herself straying—as much out of a lust for life as for flesh."I lust after younger men the way dirty old men lust after younger girls. "I find myself living my life in the third person and deciding whether it’d be a good story." She takes a sip of beer.
As Dan Slater wrote in a op-ed this year, some studies have shown that women report more sexual partners than men, are less selective in certain contexts, and are nearly as likely to accept casual sex from a celebrity or from a close friend they’ve been told is good in the sack.
She’s around 40, wearing casual, loose-fitting clothes and a pleasant smile. It is, though—if her identity were somehow unmasked, it could torpedo her high-powered career: She’s worked for one of the most prominent political figures in the country and nearly ended up in Obama’s administration.
In short, she doesn’t fit the portrait of the promiscuous, inconstant woman cast as the adulteress in Hollywood dramas. Over cold Cusqueña beers on a hot July afternoon, Megan drops the professional mien.
"If you’re a 34-year-old woman successful in your career and you’ve got a great husband but you’re bored sexually, and you watch all your single friends run around town having sex, you think you should be able to have that, too."Gloria is a slender, pretty woman in her late forties whom I meet on a Friday night at The Bar Downstairs at the Andaz hotel in midtown.
She’s had two enjoyable long-term affairs with male colleagues.